Have you ever found yourself lusting after an emotionally unavailable man? Most times we don’t desire to deal with these types of men but we still find ourselves doing just that. Typically these women find themselves in relationships with men who are either married, in a relationship, or just unwilling to commit. I know your probably asking why do women get into relationships like these knowing the circumstances. There are many reasons. Some reasons include:
We all love a chase. Anytime something appears hard to get, we get more excited about the prospect of actually getting what we want (or what we think we want). That’s why women often feel frustrated because they are now emotionally and more than likely sexually involved with a man who has zero intentions of being with them. Women will change their entire life trying to be exactly what that man wants her to be. If our man wants someone 2 sizes smaller, we start to eat better, if they like women with long hair, we are sewing in tracks, if they want someone to complain less, we stopping nagging as much. We go to great lengths to change who we are, but we constantly give these men chance after chance after chance to get their act together. And to make matters worst, we start to make excuses for their behaviors. We cut ties off with those that actually try to talk some sense into us. And we keep chugging along waiting for that magical day to arrive when he will commit. And even if it does, I doubt you will be happy due to all of the pain you had to endure just to get him.
Sometimes we are so dedicated in being the woman these men want, that we can longer identity who we are as a person. The very thing that we worked so hard for will cause us to feel drained and unsatisfied. And leaving isn’t optional because we have invested so much in this relationship that we assume the payout is right around the corner– although it never really is. Not only do we not “win” but we are left to pick up the pieces when the relationship doesn’t work out. And on top of that, our pride and egos are shattered. If you find yourself stuck in a relationship where everything is one sided, you need to take a step back and put all that energy into something else. I know its hard going from one extreme to the next but it will be worth it in the end. Don’t allow yourself to be a roller coaster, one minute your mad and then your back at square one. You are worth far more than this. You don’t need a man to determine your worth– girl you are fabulous! Once you get back to being your old self again, I’m sure you will find that perfect guy that will accept you just as you are. And he will be more than happy to commit. Just remember:
Have you ever found yourself in a situation like this? How did it end? And how long did you stick around before you moved on?